Twenty years ago, definition of «premature ejaculation» had very clear parameters: everything that lasted less than two minutes automatically made you a man with sexual problems. A little later, attitude towards premature ejaculation changed somewhat – now it is understood as a condition in which ejaculation occurs either before onset of sexual intercourse, or immediately after its onset.
Alas, this is the «number one» problem for many men, and, as a rule, failures associated with premature ejaculation are then projected onto whole sphere of intimate life.
Causes of Premature Ejaculation
In the vast majority premature ejaculation symptoms occur in adolescents who are just beginning their sexual life. This is due to overexcitation, high sensitivity of balanus, and therefore ejaculation very often occurs either before introduction of penis into vagina, or after just a few movements. Most often it quickly disappears with experience of sexual life, but it can persist for a long time, especially in case of psychological stress from failure.
Less common premature ejaculation occurs in fully mature men. It can preserve from youth or appear already at mature age. It is usually caused by quite different reasons.
All causes of premature ejaculation can be divided into two groups – physiological, that is, associated with health problems or particular structure / functioning of organs, and psychological.
- increased sensitivity of balanus;
- chronic vesiculitis – inflammation of seminal vesicles in which spermatozoa and other components of sperm are formed in testes (vesiculitis never develops without prostatitis – inflammation of prostate gland).
Increased sensitivity of balanus may be congenital and acquired. Acquired appears as a result of balanoposthitis or phimosis and is not so common.
- sometimes premature ejaculation occurs only because a man is afraid of it. Statistics show that direct sexual contact lasts no more than two minutes at average. And, nevertheless, this duration is very individual thing. However, not understanding this, many young people are frustrated by the results of their sexual contacts from the very beginning. In fact, they become dangerous enemies for themselves. They are victims of a myth that passes from generation to generation, myth that «the more, the better». At the same time, their suffering is no less than humiliation experienced during intimacy with a woman;
- often premature ejaculation in young men is caused by the fact that they masturbate too vigorously, wanting to achieve a happy result as soon as possible. At the same time, they practically do not pay attention to emotions that precede ejaculation, and this leads to inability to recognize feelings (both their own and partners) before orgasm, that is men who suffer from this disease do not develop normal sensation of their own sexual organs: they just do not know what a man should feel during strong sexual excitement that precedes orgasm.
Treatment of Premature Ejaculation
More than two thousand years ago, taoistic doctors had already written books in which they talked about love and sex. Sexual intercourse in these works was considered as a necessary condition for physical and spiritual health of a person. Particular emphasis was placed on technique of love, brought to level of art. At the same time, the most important part was devoted to how to control premature ejaculation, which explains existence in those days of a large number of guides for «young men who start living», concerning this side of issue.
According to theory of «Tao», a man belongs to «yan», whose feature is easy and quick excitement, which disappears in the same way. A woman belongs «yin» – she slowly gets excited and slowly becomes saturated. In other words, a man and a woman need different terms for both stimulation and achievement of orgasm. And challenge is to equalize them, and ideally – to synchronize these terms.
Try to follow these ancient principles on your own. Technique of «stop-start» allows to get acquainted with emotions of each partner arising before ejaculation. The idea is to bring a man as close to ejaculation as possible, but not cross the line separating the highest stage of excitation from ejaculation. Young men who will have to re-discover this truth will eventually learn to do this, and they will have a reward – sense of acute pleasure.
In principle, there is such an option: skin of balanus, devoid of foreskin, becomes more rough and less sensitive to friction during stimulation, which pushes off orgasm of a man. Therefore, it can be recommended to those who suffer from premature ejaculation to undergo circumcision.
In any case, one should not suffer alone – it is better to ask for solution sex therapist who can give good advice. After initial examination, you may need to see andrologist and urologist, as well as undergo study of your hormonal profile.